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    Unhappy Dating someone not sxe?

    Hi, I have this problem, which has also been an issue in the past.
    It usually occurs like so:
    I meet a girl
    Become friends with her
    Start to like her
    And right when I'm about to ask her out
    or a little after i do, with a yes for an answer
    i find out she not sxe

    It might seem weird, but here's the main issue behind it:

    The fact that she not sxe, which is usually being that she drinks,
    turns my stomach upside down.
    It's not a thing where I'm worrying that people would judge me
    It's me not being able to handle that one detail about her.
    And I would talk to her about it, but I don't want to make someone
    change themselves for me, cause that'll be selfish.

    Whenever this problem occurs, I find my self just wishing I could change her
    Or turn back time and stop her from ever starting
    or something
    Wishing she was against those poisons as much as me.

    So my questions are,

    What should I do?
    Is it wrong to try and fight the negative emotion against her?
    Does anybody else on here ever run across this?
    I'm I just being to strict about my morals?
    or is this just another "she's not the right one, the perfect girl will come when the time is right" thing?

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    look, if that is a problem for you brotha, don't get into a relation with such girls, even if they are nice 'n stuff... you need to find the girl that you'll love forever like in the stories and movies :p and if you want to love her forever, you need to like her completely...

    my 2 exes both weren't straight edge, but i didn't have a problem with that, it's my edge not theirs... but i told 'em that i find it wrong to do all those things, and they thought so too, me second ex never drunk anything, but she didn't call herself sXe.
    i just fucking hated it when her mom made desert and dinner with fucking alcohol, she has 3 kids.. 10, 11, and 15 and she makes lots of dinner with alcohol, that's just plain wrong imo
    but ok that relation is over, screw 'em all ...
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    yea, i know what you mean
    it's tough cuz everything about her makes me happy
    it's that one thing

    i guess i'm just too strict on myself
    maybe i should try to be more like you man
    let the my edge be my edge and not force it to be someone else's

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    Quote Originally Posted by damonkey999 View Post
    yea, i know what you mean
    it's tough cuz everything about her makes me happy
    it's that one thing

    i guess i'm just too strict on myself
    maybe i should try to be more like you man
    let the my edge be my edge and not force it to be someone else's
    it all comes down to whether or not you can be comfortable around your partner drunk or high. If you can great. If not, that's ok too.
    I never was, so I found someone whose morality matched up with mine rather than changing mine or hers.

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    yeah man, don't concentrate on changing yours or anyone else's views...you can suggest things and try to open their minds a little bit, but don't force anything...

    and if you don't agree with the things your love interest is into, then that's not necessarily a healthy relationship...you'll end up resenting that person...

    i found it easier to get along with someone with the same views and outlooks on life that i had...

    it may be hard, but good things come to those who wait
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    I might be boring but my bf isn't edge and I'm happy with that.

    Like someone above already said, it's my edge, not his. He is just fine with me not drinking or smoking, he himself drinks sometimes but it is okay for me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by swallow View Post
    I might be boring but my bf isn't edge and I'm happy with that.

    Like someone above already said, it's my edge, not his. He is just fine with me not drinking or smoking, he himself drinks sometimes but it is okay for me.
    What do you mean your BF isn't edge? Dean is totally Edge!
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    never had a straight edge girlfriend or even drug free and it has never been a problem, but none of them smoked or did anything else than drink. i wouldnt date a girl who smokes.
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    Quote Originally Posted by rodrigo View Post
    never had a straight edge girlfriend or even drug free and it has never been a problem, but none of them smoked or did anything else than drink. i wouldnt date a girl who smokes.
    Yeah I am the same way. I can deal with dating a girl who drinks, but smoking isnt really something I am okay with.
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    I think that if you can connect on an emotional, spiritual, and later a physical level, then a relationship will work. What I don't understand about your post, is if you two have become friends, why didn't the sxe issue come up before you started going out or developed a crush? If it's so important to you, it should be something that comes up in the first couple of conversations.

    On the other hand, if you think you can deal with someone occassionally drinking or getting high, etc, then I say go for it.

    You never know down the line either-my husband was drug free when I met him and after being married for 2 years, decided he wanted to be free to have the occasional drink. It was strange at first, but eventually I got used to him having a beer or drink at a party. As stated earlier, it's your edge, not your partner's that's your responsibility.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mouseman004 View Post
    What do you mean your BF isn't edge? Dean is totally Edge!
    I am the Edgest of the Edge.
    I'm a person just like you
    but I like to fuck some shoes
    On the sofa or in my bed
    It's better than getting head
    Tie the laces on my schlong
    'cos of a nike air max it's standing strong
    I'll even hump it till i bleed
    normal sex life i don't need

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    Quote Originally Posted by mouseman004 View Post
    What do you mean your BF isn't edge? Dean is totally Edge!
    Oh, sorry, I meant my first husband. I'm still trying to build a loving filthy-whore-type-of-relationship with Dean.

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    I'm actually pretty worried because the guy that I'm really interested in is a chain smoker.. I don't honestly know how I would deal with that..

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    Quote Originally Posted by MizSeri View Post
    I'm actually pretty worried because the guy that I'm really interested in is a chain smoker.. I don't honestly know how I would deal with that..
    Hmm, if the guy turns out loving you, the "I-won't-kiss-an-ashtray" seems to work.

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    hold out for a sober/edge girl or just one who can handle themselves and not be a drunken fool.


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