Hey buddys, please be a bit more tolerant!
I often saw people asking questions here, about what is sxe and what's not, and if you are sxe if you do... whatever.
And every time that's questioned, it happens that people react, er, well, let's say <unfriendly>.
I think it's a problem that we have to talk about (no, don't wanna play the forums psychologist, I just think it's important for the forum's ambience).
The main problem is, well I don't know if that's with intent, but it seems like you want to persuade the other users of your opinion. And that's well-worded.
It dwindles into that, that users may feel outcasted, if they don't do what you do or forgo what you forgo. I think the best word for it is >peer pressure<.
Of course, everyone somehow wants to make people do what (he/she thinks) is right. But you put pressure on people if you tell them they aren't sxe if they don't do that or leave that, and they may stop something without really knowing why and without it's really their own will, just to stay in the "clique".
When people ask questions like that, tell them "no that's okay" or "if you do that, you aren't sxe".
But don't say it like you want say they >mustn't< do that. It's a small difference which words you take, but makes a big difference in how it comes over.
Please, just try to be fair, and try to be kind to people who have another opinion.
Maybe you didn't want to tell people what to do, but like I said, it happens that it comes over like you want to kick people out who don't follow (what you think are) the rules of sxe.
Your's,
Meteor
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