sigh, dumb kids...

[RecoiL]

Well this is my very first post here, I registered awhile ago because I wanted to learn more and get some information, but I never got around to posting, although I did read alot.

I'd just like to quickly say that I think these forums are awesome and glad they are here.

Basically I am seeking some advice. I am 17 years old and live in southern california and a senior in highschool. I've been drug free all my life and straight edge probably for a just a little less than a year.

In one of my classes at school there are two kids that sit by each other, and they're all for "partying" and "getting fucked up" you get the picture. They'll often talk about how they got drunk and other drug related things etc. I normally don't say anything to them directly and mind my own business. I'm sure probably everyone has dealed with these types of people. One of them I never really had a problem with, when he first found I was edge I don't think he thought much of it, and he calls me "straight edge" for a nickname, which I don't really mind because how is that an insult?

Lately they have been getting on my nerves a little, though I try not to let it bother me but it does get old after awhile and annoying. I won't even be talking to them, my buddy since in front of me and another to the side, and they will make fun of me or something dumb when the matter doesn't concern them. I do not belive I have said anything to them to "aggravate" them, I don't make fun of them for the decisions they make. If they want to go drink or smoke and get high I could care less, what they do doesn't affect me. I've never "preached" to them or anything like that, usually I try to talk to them as little as I can.

Right now I can't think of too many examples of what they say because I just ignore it and im tired right now ;) but a quick one is i wore a Force Of Change longsleeve shirt to school (that i got when i saw Betrayed at their LAST show ever!!!!) it says "xFORCEx" on the front, "Straight Edge" on the sleeve and "Force Of Change" on the other, and they got a kick out of that for some reason. I do have a few sXe shirts and I would like more, but I don't like to wear them to "show off" or "brag" to other people, it's just what I believe in and something I feel strongly towards. I also have a shirt that says "Drug Free" which they told me was pathetic or something like that. Is it wrong of me to wear these shirts? I just don't want it to look like I am bragging or anything like that. Another way I see it is I wear band shirts to support the bands, is it any different than wearing a sXe shirt to support that?

Another thing that I would like to mention is I do not have any other friends who are straight edge. I desperately would like a friend who was edge and felt the same way as I do about going to shows, but I've found it extremley difficult to find someone who is sXe. Sometimes it's a little difficult but I don't (or won't) let anything like that stop me. I'm doing this for myself and it's what I feel is right. At times it would seem nice to have some friends that believe the same thing as you, but many of my friends do drink and or smoke, and that's their choice I don't try to change them. As long as they understand how I feel and respect that it's fine.

What I would like to know is what should I do or how should I handle these kids that are "teasing" me? I would be glad to hear your advice, thoughts, and opinions. Maybe someone has a similar personal experience that can help me.

THANK YOU VERY MUCH FOR YOUR TIME. I know this got a little long and I really appreciate anyone who took their time to read this. Please if you have any opinions, thoughts, disagreements any comment I would be glad to hear it so that I may be able to see things from a different perspective.

-Alex

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[D1988]

These other kids teasing you are dumb, but no matter what you are going to have people rip on you at school and shit thats how it goes everyone gets it sometime. These guys have just found something they can use to "tease" you. I think if you keep doing what your doing and ignoring them or even just laugh when they say something they will give up and realise that you dont give a fuck what they think. They won't have a clue about straight edge so the stuff they are saying to you is bullshit, just ignore them, it will be hard but you can do it.

As for the edge shirts and stuff, wear whatever the hell you want. It's your decision don't let that be influenced by anyone else :)

[xvunderx]

It's sad, but people are stupid like that. I'm sorry that it's been getting you down, and it's pretty shitty they can't just respect your choices and lifestyle.

The good thing is if you don't give them a rise, they will get board, and shut up most likely.

I'm sure you'll find some other people you are on the same page with, even if it's just kids at shows, and in the mean time you've got some level of support here!

It's tough being in high school, but things get better, and at 17 you've almost finished with the current idiots.

[xsecx]

Well this is my very first post here, I registered awhile ago because I wanted to learn more and get some information, but I never got around to posting, although I did read alot.

I'd just like to quickly say that I think these forums are awesome and glad they are here.

Basically I am seeking some advice. I am 17 years old and live in southern california and a senior in highschool. I've been drug free all my life and straight edge probably for a just a little less than a year.

In one of my classes at school there are two kids that sit by each other, and they're all for "partying" and "getting fucked up" you get the picture. They'll often talk about how they got drunk and other drug related things etc. I normally don't say anything to them directly and mind my own business. I'm sure probably everyone has dealed with these types of people. One of them I never really had a problem with, when he first found I was edge I don't think he thought much of it, and he calls me "straight edge" for a nickname, which I don't really mind because how is that an insult?

Lately they have been getting on my nerves a little, though I try not to let it bother me but it does get old after awhile and annoying. I won't even be talking to them, my buddy since in front of me and another to the side, and they will make fun of me or something dumb when the matter doesn't concern them. I do not belive I have said anything to them to "aggravate" them, I don't make fun of them for the decisions they make. If they want to go drink or smoke and get high I could care less, what they do doesn't affect me. I've never "preached" to them or anything like that, usually I try to talk to them as little as I can.

Right now I can't think of too many examples of what they say because I just ignore it and im tired right now ;) but a quick one is i wore a Force Of Change longsleeve shirt to school (that i got when i saw Betrayed at their LAST show ever!!!!) it says "xFORCEx" on the front, "Straight Edge" on the sleeve and "Force Of Change" on the other, and they got a kick out of that for some reason. I do have a few sXe shirts and I would like more, but I don't like to wear them to "show off" or "brag" to other people, it's just what I believe in and something I feel strongly towards. I also have a shirt that says "Drug Free" which they told me was pathetic or something like that. Is it wrong of me to wear these shirts? I just don't want it to look like I am bragging or anything like that. Another way I see it is I wear band shirts to support the bands, is it any different than wearing a sXe shirt to support that?

Another thing that I would like to mention is I do not have any other friends who are straight edge. I desperately would like a friend who was edge and felt the same way as I do about going to shows, but I've found it extremley difficult to find someone who is sXe. Sometimes it's a little difficult but I don't (or won't) let anything like that stop me. I'm doing this for myself and it's what I feel is right. At times it would seem nice to have some friends that believe the same thing as you, but many of my friends do drink and or smoke, and that's their choice I don't try to change them. As long as they understand how I feel and respect that it's fine.

What I would like to know is what should I do or how should I handle these kids that are "teasing" me? I would be glad to hear your advice, thoughts, and opinions. Maybe someone has a similar personal experience that can help me.

THANK YOU VERY MUCH FOR YOUR TIME. I know this got a little long and I really appreciate anyone who took their time to read this. Please if you have any opinions, thoughts, disagreements any comment I would be glad to hear it so that I may be able to see things from a different perspective.

-Alex

http://myspace-425.vo.llnwd.net/01398/52/44/1398494425_l.jpg

are you in southern california? If so, I know some people out there I can definitely put you in touch with that are good people and edge.

[Tex]

Welcome to the boards!!! No one I know around my school is edge either, but that doesn't stop me. As for those 2 guys I know the type I've got plenty at my school too. They don't say anything to me, but it is a annoying to be sitting in school trying,and trying to learn something important and all you hear is how stoned or hammered someone got at a party the night before. I just ignore them as well not matter how much they annoy me.

Well at least I only have 2 3/4 of high school left!!!!

[RecoiL]

Thank you all very much for the support and replies, it means alot to me and I REALLY appreciate everyone's kindness. I pretty much agree with what most of you said about ignoring them, I can't really worry about what they think because like what D1988 said they don't know anything about straight edge. I guess it makes them feel cool or something to brag about how they do drugs and laugh at someone who doesn't, but who knows they must have some problem if they need to do that anyway.

Dusty, if you could do that you would not know how thankful I would be. That would be definatley amazing, I really wish I knew more straightedge people that I can talk to or hangout with etc. I do live in southern california, I live in Whitter and right on the border of La Habra. Some of the venues I go to alot are Chain Reaction (in Anaheim) and The Alley (in Fullerton) and sometimes the The Showcase Theatre (in Corona). Theres also The Glasshouse (Pomona) and the House Of Blues of course! (Ahaheim & LA). I don't know if needed to know that just thought I'd mention it incase it helps or anything.


but it is a annoying to be sitting in school trying,and trying to learn something important and all you hear is how stoned or hammered someone got at a party the night before.
I definatley agree!!! My question is how can something be fun when you can't even remeber what happend?

Thanks again everyone, I love this place haha